Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Old Friends

When I woke up this morning, a snippet of a dream hung around in my head for a while. Two reasons why I mention this. One, I rarely remember ANY dreams so the fact that I did this morning makes this something for me to ponder. Two, in the dream was a friend that I haven't seen in probably fifteen years.

In my early twenties, I hung out with this guy and two others. Almost every day. We had such fun, going to concerts, talking about books, playing four square (yes, the childhood playground game), just hanging out. Then things changed, as they tend to do. This friend got a girlfriend and we didn't see him as often. I moved to another state for a job and wrote for a while but that soon petered out. Eventually we all just lost touch. I think about them every now and then, curious as to what they're up to, what they're doing, how life's treating them. I haven't thought of them in quite a while, though so the fact that I dreamt of one makes me wonder. Why now? Does it mean something? Should I try and look him up? I have no clue if he stayed in Ohio or moved away.

We all have them, I'm sure. People who were once good friends, but drift away for whatever reason. Then we have those that stay with us through every aspect of life. I believe that each person that touches our lives has something to teach us. It's up to us to accept that lesson.

Is there someone you lost track of over the years? Ever tried to find them?


Anonymous said...

Your post reminds me of an old best bud and a failure to reconnect. I take all the blame for letting the friendship lapse in the first place. She moved back home to another state and I just let things dwindle down to nothing. We did try at first, but it just faded to nothing. Then a few years ago, I successfully located her. We had a few fun phone calls, but when calls and emails went without response, I had to accept that I'd let it go too far and too long. I'll always value her friendship, because even if we don't talk any more I still consider her my friend.

GPS said...

Your post struck a nerve. I lost touch with an old friend years ago. We went thro a lot together and thro the years I've thought about her. Recently while getting a hair cut I went thro the business cards people leave and there she was. I took a card but felt weird calling. After reading the last post I'm thinking maybe you can't go back.

Rachel Lynne said...

I had a best friend through high school and college. We stayed connected after I moved to Virginia and then Georgia but the last time we talked she called and was hysterical over a cheating husband and I told her that she'd always known he was a loser and it was time to rethink things well...she hasn't called since so I'm guessing the advice wasn't well received! LOL

Mary Ricksen said...

Me too! I still miss her to this day. We just lost touch, but I would love to see her again. Or even just talk. I tried but no luck. Darn.

Riley Quinn said...

I think the important thing is to try. If it doesn't work out, then it wasn't meant to be and it's best to cherish the memories you have. I spent a little time googling and facebooking my friend. No luck yet, but then he was never a "joiner". LOL

Jana Richards said...

My husband and I have moved several times over the years and have made friends in several communities. You think that you'll keep in touch over the phone and through email but sometimes it doesn't last. I often think about people I've known and lost touch with and wonder how they're doing.

Good post Riley.


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